Why do we have to suffer? Why can’t I reach out to anybody?

This question come out of our audience at Spotlight on Teen Dating Violence: Upload Awareness. This person, perhaps a survivor of TDV, is experiencing a feeling that many other survivors feel. Isolation. One of the biggest tools that an abuser uses to control their partner is isolation. In the beginning of a relationship, the abusive partner may say that they want to spend all their time with you and want you all to themselves. The may say that your friends or family don’t like them and that it hurts when you spend time with those people. Eventually this may turn into major jealousy or saying they don’t trust you with other people. This may lead you to limit time with others just so you don’t have to deal with an argument. And finally, friends and family may slowly pull away and give up on trying to hang out with you because it always causes problems in your relationship or they just don’t understand the isolation you are experiencing.

So our point is this, be aware of these early warning signs and look out for them. If you feel like this describes your relationship, don’t hesitate to reach out to PADV advocates who can help you at 404-873-1766. Friends and family, if someone you love is in a situation like this don’t give up or abandon them. Be patient, listen, and most of all don’t let the survivor become more isolated by losing you. Give them information and be supportive.